We fall down, we get up. I did this, literally, yesterday. Today I’m still on ice pack therapy, but thankfully, okay, from a fall I took. No broken bones, but major tissue bruising. Dare I say it? On my buttocks—and it is the size of a small black and blue watermelon. I fell, thinking I could step off a 3-foot retaining wall at my son’s house—landed on river rock, along with full impact on the sharp side of a standing shovel. If you have to land on a shovel, the buttocks is probably the best place on the body to do so. Aargh!
I don’t know about how you react to accidents you think you could have prevented, but I only make it worse by reprimanding myself with: how could I do such a thing, what was I thinking? Making personal mistakes, or finding ourselves in a sudden accident are part of life. They are inescapable human events that can make us temporarily narcissistic—whether the route is self-pity or self-loathing.
Those emotions are both a little heavy for me to succumb to over my injured buttock’s tissue, but you might be experiencing something difficult today—a mistake you made, or an accident you feel you could, or should have, prevented–something that does have you heavily overcome in negative emotions.
How can you give yourself a little love when you’re being hard on yourself?
- Accept it happened—it’s over—live in the moment, and the new possibilities today will bring.
- Talk to those who care, are good listeners and offer support—this keeps self-indulgence or feeling stupid at bay, clears perspective, and validates you are still an okay person. Your intent was not to make a mistake or have an accident. “Stuff happens!”
- Take personal responsibility to help make the most of it. Feel empowered to do something good because of it. (Write about it to help others, take control of your life where you can and should, make a necessary change, chalk up a lesson learned, etc.)
- Enjoy normalcy! Do something routine—for example I’m writing this; I completed a small writing job for a client, did the laundry and cooked dinner. It feels good, just to enjoy being able to do the ordinary things of everyday life. What can you do, even if you have to push yourself?
- Exercise if you can. Fresh air and birds chirping feeds our spirit; getting our heart pumping clears the cobwebs in our brain, and doing a recreational sport or activity is fun!
- Seek a spiritual perspective—raise awareness of new ways to cope, and receive refreshing hope.
- Briefly indulge with sugar and carbs—then give ‘em up and get on with healthy eating! Love health, love you!
- This and that—play with a pet, take an essential oil bath, get a massage, do yoga, light candles, play music, meet a friend for lunch, cut some flowers, buy yourself a bouquet, etc. Do what makes you feel relaxed and happy.
Love is a gift that has to be nurtured—“to give yourself a little love” is a deliberate choice each of us need to make today. It’s true what George Sand said: “There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved.” Oddly enough, that happiness includes the capacity to love ourselves.
Let’s do it!